Beautiful on a Budget

Written by Jackie Tinkler

So…a few years back, we were downsized considerably.  The housing and job market tanked, there were job losses and changes that left us picking up the pieces of our upper middle class lifestyle; all just as we were about to become empty nesters and begin the next phase of our lives.   Being forced to let go of everything is not such a bad thing, particularly when you find hidden treasure in the pieces. No longer do I need expensive things to satisfy my desire for beauty.   In fact, I have found it amazingly fun to find beauty in the everyday ordinary places in my home and around me.

Over the years, I have embraced this new place with even more appreciation.   Don’t get me wrong, it was hard, but  I have learned to live more creatively and beautifully than ever before.  God has given me an abundance of inspiration in creating a cohesively attractive, yet simple living space, I can be content in, even on a budget.

Maybe you can relate and are trying to find the beautiful after the struggle, the diagnosis or the change.  Whatever it may be, let me encourage you to create a lovely home from the scattered pieces of your life so it is your haven, a safe place and a refuge from the storm.

Here are my top five ways to live more creative and beautiful on a budget! Remember to keep to what you love and not worry about staying on trend so much if you don’t like the trend.  If you love a more traditional look, go for it.  I like to mix traditional,  cozy romantic and antique country with a few artsy eclectic pieces.

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There are amazing and beautiful deals in the thrift stores, Facebook Marketplace and consignment shops.  You have to be willing to find them.  First, all items in both pictures were purchased either at consignment, thrift or antique malls.  The two beautiful red chairs in the first picture were bought at a consignment shop for less than $ 100.00 for both.     The dark chocolate brown library chair directly above was purchased for $12.00 at an antique mall,  the lamp sitting on the desk was $10.00 at a thrift store, and the deer holding a cigar was a Target purchase.  The pricier pieces are the antique side table serving as a coffee table and walnut antique cabinet circa 1900.  They were my “splurges” but still a good buy.  Give yourself permission to purchase one or two splurges when you have the $$.

 

 

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If you find a piece you can’t live without but it doesn’t quite “go with” your look, paint it!  This antique sewing machine was given to us by a friend.  To fit with our current décor style, we painted it this trendy blue and it looks amazing!

 

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You are allowed to mix and match chairs at your dining or breakfast table.  This will save on your budget because it allows you to use chairs from around the house or “onesies” you may find out and about. I pulled in the wicker bench from the porch to add a little something different here.   Think outside the box. For example, all of my chairs don’t need to match and be from the furniture store as long as the colors are cohesive.
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Furniture placement is important for a stylish and balanced space.  Think “gathering” place.  You want to pull the furniture away from the walls and place it in a “group” for cozy conversation around the fireplace, TV or focal point in the room. Once the furniture is placed in a grouping, fill in the rest with accessories, pillows, throws, and lamps.
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Create a place in either the kitchen or living room for hospitality.  Your family members and guests will LOVE this cozy spot to make a cup of coffee, grab a cup of tea or water and snack on a pastry at any time.  You will love the ease of serving as well!

 

IMG_3891Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Director at Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

 

 

Self Esteem?

Written by Jodi Davis Lybrand 
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I have never liked the term ‘self esteem.” Why? Well, when you look at ‘self’ you tend to compare yourself with other ‘selfs’. That will always lead to ego and pride or despair and loathing. Both are unwanted extremes. I prefer the term, ‘true esteem.”

True esteem is not competitive, nor is it based on comparisons. What is true esteem? I am so glad you asked! True esteem is looking at yourself as God sees you.  It’s taking a balanced view of yourself. It is not thinking too highly or too lowly of yourself. It’s found in the living, loving God. The truth is found in His word.

Too often we have believed lies either whispered or shouted to us. We have, perhaps even unconsciously, fallen for the world’s standard of worth. You know what I mean!  Who has the most money? Biggest house? Best vacations? Best education? Jesus says, “…Life is not measured by how much you own.” (Luke 12:15 NLT)

Oh, and as ladies, we are always looking for the next beauty product that will “do it” for us. (or is that just me?!?!?) Now, don’t get me wrong. Wanting to look nice is okay. Just don’t believe for a minute that God loves us any less for “less than perfect” hair. (whatever that is!) Or, that He loves us any more because we only wear clothes from a high-end store. No. He says, “…YOU are precious to me. YOU are honored, and I love YOU(Isaiah 43:4 NLT)

This was said before you were ever born, before you took your first steps, before you believed the first lie. It was proven when God sent His only Son Jesus, to prepare the way to live eternally with Him! “…I will come and get you so you will always be with me where I am.” (John 14:3 NLT)

Are you tired of believing the lies? Tired of trying to be good enough? Tired of comparing yourself with others? The challenge in this overwhelming, information-overloaded world is to STOP! Yes… right now…take a deep breath and just say,

Help me to be deaf to the lies I’ve believed in the past. Lord, I choose to believe YOU. I don’t feel it, but help me to be strong and vigilent against the untruths culture has told me. Please, show me your love in wonderful ways!”

Be encouraged, my Friend, He heard you and will surely answer!

JodiJodi Davis Lybrand is a life long resident of Shelby County Alabama. She is married, has raised two wonderful sons, has a beautiful daughter in law and 3 of the most adorable grandchildren ever! Her favorites include playing with those awesome grandchildren, enjoying nature with long walks and sunsets, visiting with friends-old and new, painting and working through her bucket list! A Bible teacher for 30 years, teaching pre- school through senior citizen age (before she was one!), she jests that she can teach you a Bible lesson in sixty seconds or sixty minutes. Most of all, she loves encouraging people through the truths found in God’s word.

God Loves Us- Even With Bad Haircuts

Written by Nicole Collier
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1 John 3:1(NLT)

“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him.”

When I was about age five, my aunt took me to get a haircut. I went into the strip mall “hair salon” looking like Pippy Longstocking and came out looking like Sandy Duncan in an off-Broadway production of Peter Pan. My hair had been chopped off. As sad as I was about my hair, the heartbreaking part was coming home to my daddy. After he gave my little brother his gift from our grandparents I asked where mine was. My father looked at me, not recognizing his own daughter, telling me to check with my parents. I was devastated. My own father did not recognize me. My daddy went on to apologize, and gave me the gift from my grandparents, a My Little Pony doll. This day stands vividly in my mind 30+ years later. How could my own father not recognize me? I was, after all, fifty percent him. That five-year-old girl would spend the next 25 years feeling lost in who she was, never feeling visible to those in her circle, never feeling she belonged to anyone. No matter how hard she tried. Once she came to realize just how wonderfully and fearfully beautiful she was made, she was able to fully see herself as the woman she was created to be.

Has there been a time in your life when you felt unseen or unrecognized in a room full of people who should know you? While this was an honest mistake of my daddy, one he felt horrible about, I would venture to say we have all felt this sense of not belonging at some point in our life. Whether it be an awkward stage in high school, running the household day in and day out, chauffeuring tiny people to and from places, or simply keeping them alive, you feel that you go unseen.

I love this verse from First John that reminds us we are children of God. In a society that is ever-changing in who or what we are supposed to be, belong to, or believe from day to day, it is nice to remember at the end of the day whose we are. We are children to the Heavenly Father. God never forgets His children. While I understand this is hard for some who have been hurt by their Earthly father as I was that summer day, my prayer is that you can lean in to hear the whisper of God telling you how much He loves you.

I hope your spirit remembers that you are loved, adored, and known because He created you with a purpose only you can fulfill.

Psalm 139:14 (NLT)

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”

Nicole Collier grew up in Montgomery, AL. She now lives in Shelby County with her husband, Matthew, and 2 boys, Ethan, 10, and Russell, 6. She is a lover of all things creative, including photography and music. Her life verse is Romans 8:28…God will use your story to turn it around, bringing Him the glory through it all. You can find Nicole now as a contributor on The Something More Ministries Blog, and serving with The Just People Project Ministry.

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How Do You Leave Your Mark of Love?

Written by Nicole Collier

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Matthew 22:36-40

36 “Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?”

37 Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

I recently heard something that pricked my heart while sitting at Recreate Women’s conference. DawnCherie Wilkerson, a Pastor from Miami said, “The way you love people is what leaves a mark on people.”

When she spoke this sentence, it reminded me of the homeless ministry my family serves with. When we step outside of our “self” to love others we are leaving a mark on them. When we give someone a hug, acknowledge them, give them a simple smile, we are leaving a mark on them. We are not going to be remembered for the house we have, the car we drive, or even the makeup we wore. What we will be remembered for is how we leave our mark on others. Are you leaving a mark of love? Are you leaving Jesus wherever you go? Recently, I went on a trip to Linn Park to participate in a serve project and didn’t want to be there. I was not feeling it…I had cramps. I had a headache. To be honest, I wanted my pajama pants and heating pad!  When I left, I realized I had the best serve I had in a long time. Why? I had set myself aside, and loved on other people. I laughed with them, hugged their neck, and prayed with them. We don’t always want to love others, but when we do, we often times will walk away more blessed than any blessing we could give.

In the days we live in now, I find it hard at times to love others. We have become polarized in our differences and it seems impossible to find a middle ground that unites us. When Jesus came on to the scene, he flipped the script giving us the most important teaching- to love the Lord with all our heart, and soul…then LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR as you love yourself. I know that stepping aside from our “self” to love a neighbor goes against everything society tells us, especially when they are different than we are.

Here are three ways I encourage you to love someone:

  1. Visit a local nursing home. Sit with them, listen to their stories. Soak in their wisdom.
  2. Serve at a local soup kitchen. Show someone you love them with a serving spoon.
  3. Smile at every single person you encounter for one day. See the impact you make not only on their day, but yours as well.

 

Nicole Collier grew up in Montgomery, AL. She now lives in Helena, AL  with her husband, Matthew, and 2 boys, Ethan, 10, and Russell, 6. She is a lover of all things creative, including photography and music. Her life verse is Romans 8:28. God will use your story to turn it around, bringing Him the glory through it all. You can find Nicole now as a contributor on The Something More Ministries Blog, and serving with The Just People Project Ministry.

 

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I Am a Pearl

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Written by Danielle Smith and Jackie Tinkler

Encapsulated and protected by His grace I grow.  Just a bead of sand strengthened by the power of time.

At the deepest depths of the ocean, in the darkest places on this planet, like a pearl being layered with nacre, I grow stronger still.

The pressures of my world beating down on me,  protected within my lair, not shaken by my circumstances; I grow stronger still.

I am safe and protected. In the stillness I find my strength and  in the light I live.  I grow stronger still.

The vastness of God’s presence penetrates the darkness of the abyss where I wait for freedom.  I grow stronger still.

God, you choose to give me your life.  Just a bead of sand layered by your love, crafted into a rare pearl.

A true gem is very rare and uniquely crafted. It’s in the secret places of my soul that God makes me beautiful in his layers of grace.   I’m not just one pearl, but a strand bound together by His love.  I’m strong, I’m capable, I’m unrivaled.

Yet… I grow stronger still

“I will give you the treasures of darkness and the hidden riches of secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who calls you by name.” Isaiah 45:3

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IMG_6150My name is Danielle Smith!  I am married to an incredible man Scott Smith, who is also my best friend.  I have two incredible children, for which I feel I am truly blessed.  I love to laugh and spend time with my family and friends.  I hope to make you laugh a time or two while reading my articles!

 

 

 

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Hey, Come and See

 

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Written by Jackie Tinkler

As I strolled the open space of  timeless chatter and nostalgic yesterdays, a familiar sense of security came over me.  Old clocks, sideboards that served many teas and family meals, tea kettles, and the mixture of old and new.    All of it seemed to lure me into a safe place.

As my husband and I walked the corridors of the old antique mall, I couldn’t help but find promise in the nostalgia. There was so much to see and  I began to feel overwhelmed and unsure.  I would think, “Let me keep my options open and see what’s around the corner. If I  only had that, I could happy. Oh, why couldn’t things be like this again?”  As my mindless chatter took me to another world, I saw the most beautiful china cabinet I’m sure I needed.  After all, the one I have is not this one!  The “wrestling” began in my heart.

Just as I began to pine away for something I couldn’t have, my husband Jim said, “Hey, come and see this.”  I’ll be honest, I thought he was going to show me an old tool from the 1800’s I had no use for, so reluctantly I left that pretty old cabinet behind to see what the “surprise” was.

To my amazement and joy, Jim walked  me over to a snare drum in a suitcase with a big smile on his face.  I was stunned!  The incredible thing is, that not twenty minutes ago we had been talking about childhood memories and that I played the snare drum in the elementary school band and he played the clarinet.  Time stood still for just a moment as, well, we enjoyed the memories of innocence and happiness.  IMG_5652

What are the chances that we would happen upon a snare drum the same day we talked about it?  It was as if God was showing me that if I choose to take my eyes off of what I want and think I need, he’ll give me what I REALLY need.  The joy and sweetness of His presence and promises from long ago.   You see that snare drum was more than just a drum, it was the very essence and entrance to the dreams and gifting God had for me as a child. Not because I could play a drum, but because it reminded me that it was a part of the journey.    That snare drum was the beginning,  and he was inviting me over to “come and see” and be reminded “I haven’t forgotten.”

“For God’s gifts and his call can never be withdrawn.” –Romans 11:29
Thank You, God, that You have gifted me for such a time as this.  You gave me everything I needed long ago to walk in your promises and dreams. I praise You that I am fearfully made, intricately woven and fashioned.   Thank you that you are for me and you have such wonderful plans for my life.

 

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

 

 

 

 

 

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