1 John 3:1(NLT)
“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him.”
When I was about age five, my aunt took me to get a haircut. I went into the strip mall “hair salon” looking like Pippy Longstocking and came out looking like Sandy Duncan in an off-Broadway production of Peter Pan. My hair had been chopped off. As sad as I was about my hair, the heartbreaking part was coming home to my daddy. After he gave my little brother his gift from our grandparents I asked where mine was. My father looked at me, not recognizing his own daughter, telling me to check with my parents. I was devastated. My own father did not recognize me. My daddy went on to apologize, and gave me the gift from my grandparents, a My Little Pony doll. This day stands vividly in my mind 30+ years later. How could my own father not recognize me? I was, after all, fifty percent him. That five-year-old girl would spend the next 25 years feeling lost in who she was, never feeling visible to those in her circle, never feeling she belonged to anyone. No matter how hard she tried. Once she came to realize just how wonderfully and fearfully beautiful she was made, she was able to fully see herself as the woman she was created to be.
Has there been a time in your life when you felt unseen or unrecognized in a room full of people who should know you? While this was an honest mistake of my daddy, one he felt horrible about, I would venture to say we have all felt this sense of not belonging at some point in our life. Whether it be an awkward stage in high school, running the household day in and day out, chauffeuring tiny people to and from places, or simply keeping them alive, you feel that you go unseen.
I love this verse from First John that reminds us we are children of God. In a society that is ever-changing in who or what we are supposed to be, belong to, or believe from day to day, it is nice to remember at the end of the day whose we are. We are children to the Heavenly Father. God never forgets His children. While I understand this is hard for some who have been hurt by their Earthly father as I was that summer day, my prayer is that you can lean in to hear the whisper of God telling you how much He loves you.
I hope your spirit remembers that you are loved, adored, and known because He created you with a purpose only you can fulfill.
Psalm 139:14 (NLT)
“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”
Nicole Collier grew up in Montgomery, AL. She now lives in Shelby County with her husband, Matthew, and 2 boys, Ethan, 10, and Russell, 6. She is a lover of all things creative, including photography and music. Her life verse is Romans 8:28…God will use your story to turn it around, bringing Him the glory through it all. You can find Nicole now as a contributor on The Something More Ministries Blog, and serving with The Just People Project Ministry.